CLERGY CORNER Exploring Love Languages WRITTEN BY: PASTOR WES FOSTER - TRUE BIBLE BAPTIST CHURCH Every church seems to strive for this type of interaction. Where people come together and enjoy each other’s company while praising God in a sincere way. It all boils down to relationships. We all have them and we all have problems with them from time to time. I want to look at that in this article. Now I can’t cover it completely but I want to share something that has helped me immensely over the 30 plus years of marriage and 20 plus years of parenting. There was a book written years ago by Dr. Gary Chapman called, The Five Love Languages. This book theorizes that there are five basic “Love Languages” that all people speak. It’s a book about the marriage relationship but it also applies to parenting children, couples who are not married and friendships. This book posits that we have problems in our marriages because people don’t speak the same love language. I am a believer in this theory. Mainly because it saved my marriage. So I want to briefly look at one love Language in this season especially since we’ve just come out of the season of giving and based on all the stores, Valentines Day is right around the corner. I do have a disclaimer to this whole Love Language theory. Like any theory, it’s only as good as the person using it. As a Christian if I don’t have the Holy Spirit helping me love my spouse I’ll become frustrated and upset because the love languages are based on giving to others rather than looking at what I’ll receive. Learning what these languages are and how to speak your spouse’s or partner’s love language will help your relationship but it won’t solve all your relationship problems. I guarantee it will help your relationships as you get along better together and understand how the other person wants to be loved. However, if you think by speaking your spouse or partner’s love language you will get what you want then you are acting for the wrong reasons. If you want to show your unconditional love to your partner by learning and speaking their love language then this will help tremendously. The first and easiest love language to learn is the language of “Gifts.” When a person speaks in “Gifts,” it means that they give and receive love by the giving and getting gifts. For this person the gift is the symbol of love both for
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