2 COPING STRATEGIES There are five universal stages of grief and loss (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance). People grieving do not necessarily go through the stages in the same order or experience all of them. Conceptually knowing what to do and doing are totally different concepts. The expectations we put on ourselves can be unrealistic, especially when circles of support are small, or you are labeled the strong one. Negotiating trauma at an all-time high while living life knowing a part of you will never return is an eerie feeling. Shifting thinking is imperative. Slowing down raging thoughts and meeting emotionally charged feelings face-to-face can be helpful. Spiritual support is critical. Anchoring oneself in unwavering faith gives additional context and reasoning. Dismantling armor that can easily keep a person bound is beneficial. Remember, there is a fine line between sane and insanity. As the old folks say, “keep living.” Life has a way of teaching us lessons and showing us things, we never imagined. Incorporate deep breathing exercises to calm your body down and soothe yourself. Repeat this strategy to minimize anxiety. Get outdoors. Notice the beauty of nature. Take a walk and do light exercise. Physical activity adds great health benefits while also releases tension. Try getting a massage. It breaks up toxins in the body for elimination. Drink room temperature water first thing in the morning to wakeup your spleen and help the body better process food during the day. Eat properly and rest. Take breaks when you feel tired. Spend time alone reflecting upon the small things that matter most. The URBAN EXPERIENCE | 2020 29
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