beat on. Because he and she had marks they both went to jail. We are afraid of the backlash from 911. 3. This last one breaks my heart the most because it comes from us. We’re afraid of how we will be treated by our own community. Look at the backlash that the victims and their parents, of R Kelly received. Many accused them of trying to keep a black man down, people always want to report the black man. The black man this, black man that, but if the black man committed a crime against a Black woman how come she can’t say anything? Why can’t she say something? We know one or both things are going to happen. We will be looked at as a traitor of our community for airing our dirty laundry in public and making a black man look bad or our community look bad. Families are going to distance themselves from us and make the comment, “you know that was a family matter, you didn’t have to involve everyone like that you didn’t have to put him out there like that.” Where can I go if I’m at church and I’m a victim of domestic violence. Can I talk to my Pastor or is he going to tell me God hates divorce and stay married? In the same documentary #WhyIstayed one of the women said something that blew my mind. “I stayed because my Pastor said God hates divorce it never occurred to me that God hates abuse too. I was messed up by that statement because the very book that truly helped me walk out of my relationship this was shown to me by my twelve-year-old daughter at the time. We were in a bookstore and my husband at the time wanted to look religious and spiritual. We were making a purchase for a family member. My daughter kept spinning around this turnstile and she kept trying to take this book out. Every time I looked at her, she acted as if she wasn’t trying to take the book out the book was titled Domestic Violence: A Sexual Assault on the Women’s Worth and it was written by a Christian woman she had scripture after scripture that talked about why God hates violence and why God hates when a man takes his
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