Page 18 THE MALDEN ADVOCATE–Friday, January 10, 2025 OBITUARY Nuri Hado Of Malden. Respected by many, passed away in the early hours of Monday, January 6, at the age of 76 surrounded by his family and loved ones. Born on July 1st, 1948 in Delvine, Albania, Nuri was the first son of Shemsho and Kali Hado. From a young age Nuri valued education and was known as an intellect by many. Savvy Senior by Jim Miller How to Help a Hoarding Parent Dear Savvy Senior, My dad has always been a pack rat, but since mom died a few years ago he’s become more of a hoarder. The clutter in his house has gotten out of control and I don’t know what to do. Any suggestions? Distraught in Centerville Dear Distraught, Unfortunately, hoarding or clutter addiction is a problem that’s become increasingly common in the U.S. It effects approximately 6 percent of Americans age 65 or older. The problem can range anywhere from moderate messiness to hoarding so severe it may be related to a mental health disorder like obsessive-compulsive disorder. Here’s what you should know, along with some tips and resources that can help you help your dad. Why People Hoard The reasons most people hoard is because they have an extreme sentimental attachment to their possessions, or they believe they might need their items at a later date. Hoarding can also be a sign that an older person is depressed, anxious or showing early symptoms of dementia. Common problems for seniors who live in excessive clutter are tripping, falling and breaking a bone; overlooking bills and missing medications that are hidden in the clutter; suffering from the environmental effects of mold, mildew and dust, and even living among insects and rodents. What to Do To help you gauge your dad’s problem, the Institute for Challenging Disorganization (ICD) offers a free “Clutter Hoarding Scale” that you can download at ChallengingDisorganization.org. If you find that your dad has a moderate cluttering problem, there are a number of things you can do to help. Start by having a talk with him, expressing your concern for his health and safety, and offering your assistance to help him declutter. If he takes you up on it, most professional organizers recommend decluttering in small steps. Take one room at a time or even a portion of a room at a time. This will help prevent your dad from getting overwhelmed. Before you start, designate three piles or boxes for your dad’s stuff – one pile is for items he wants to keep-and-put-away, another is the donate pile and the last is the throwaway pile. You and your dad will need to determine which pile his things belong in as you work. If he struggles with sentimental items that he doesn’t use, suggest he keep only one item for memory sake and donate the rest to family members who will use them. You will also need to help him set up a system for organizing the kept items and new possessions. Find Help If you need some help with the decluttering and organizing, consider hiring a professional organizer who can come to your dad’s home to help you prioritize, organize and remove the clutter. The National Association of Productivity and Organizing Professionals (NAPO.net) and the ICD (ChallengingDisorganization.org) both offer directories on their websites to help you locate a professional in your area. If your dad has a bigger, more serious hoarding problem (if his daily functioning is impaired, or if he is having financial difficulties, health problems, or other issues) you’ll need to seek professional help. Talk therapy and/or antidepressants can help address control issues, anxiety, depression, and other feelings that may underline hoarding tendencies, and make it easier for him to confront his disorder. To locate help, contact Helping Elders Live Productively (H.E.L.P.). This is a free education, counseling, and referral resource that helps older adults and their families who are experiencing hoarding, by connecting them with legal services, mental health assistance and support groups. Call 310-533-1996 for a referral or visit Help4srs.org/support-services-for-seniorswho-hoard. You can also find professional help through the International OCD Foundation, which provides a hoarding center on their website at Hoarding.iocdf.org. And to get help with challenging cleanup jobs, the biggest provider is Steri-Clean, Inc. (see Hoarders.com or call 800-462-7337), a hoarding cleanup company that has franchises located throughout the country. Send your senior questions to: Savvy Senior, P.O. Box 5443, Norman, OK 73070, or visit SavvySenior. org. Jim Miller is a contributor to the NBC Today show and author of “The Savvy Senior” book. Nuri began his academic journey in south Albania, graduating with honors in all of his degrees and further went on to become a well-respected Chief Chemical Engineer. In 1978, he married his sweetheart, Refize Dauti, together they settled in Ballsh, Albania and welcomed three children: Arenuar (Ari), Elona, and Alban. During this period, Nuri took pride in himself as a family man and also highly devoted himself to his career. Nuri worked as a Chief Chemical Engineer in Albania for many years until he moved his family to the United States in 1998. Upon arriving to the US, Nuri and his family settled down in Malden, MA where he later began working at Rogers Foam Corporation as a Technician, until retirement. Nuri loved reading, enjoyed the company of his family and friends, and was an avid soccer fan (a sport he enjoyed playing in his younger days). Nuri was known to be very social and loved spending time with his grandchildren. His legacy will undoubtedly live on in the hearts and minds of all who were touched by his remarkable life. Nuri is survived by his wife, Refize Hado of Malden, his children: Ari Hado (Zhani) of Lynnfield, Elona Knox (Keith) of Naples, FL, Alban Hado (Enada) of Parkland, FL, his grandchildren: Aiden, Alessio, Aviana, Greyson, Mason, and his siblings: Firdes Pashko, Bujar Hado, Shero Shena, Monda Kodhelaj, Dona Muca and Leta Vlacho. Visitation for Nuri will be held on Saturday, January 11, at the Weir – MacCuish Golden Rule Funeral Home, 144 Salem St, Malden from 10 – 2 PM. Interment will immediately follow in Forest Dale Cemetery, Malden. Patrick J. Linden Of Malden, January 2nd, 2025. Beloved husband of Jill S. Loving father of Amy M. Linden-Chaves and her significant other Michael Giardina of Saugus and Caroline A. Linden of California. Cherished grandfather of Hayley Marie and Lincoln Patrick Chaves. Dear brother of Rev. Michael D. Linden, S.J. of Newton, Leona Andrew and her husband Charles of Groveland and John Linden of Chelsea. Dear brother-in-law of Joy Turcotte and her husband Richard of Malden. Loving uncle of Ben and Sean Turcotte of Malden and Charles Andrew of Martha’s Vineyard. Patrick was raised in Medford. He is a graduate of Boston College High School. He worked as the Lead Facilities Manager at the Colonnade Hotel and Residence in Boston since 2003 where he was a mentor to several employees. He was an avid Aquarist and the originator of Badman’s Tropical Fish, a website designed to help in aquarium care and tropical fish keeping. Patrick was also an avid gardener and bird watcher. First and foremost, he was a family man who was devoted to his wife, children, grandchildren and his extended family. Relatives & friends were invited to attend visiting hours at the Breslin Funeral Home, Malden on Wednesday January 8th. A celebration of his life was held immediately following the visitation. In lieu of flowers, donations in his memory may be made to the American Cancer Society, www. cancer.org. Stephen K. Murray Of Wakefield, originally of Malden. Born April 25, 1955. ‘Murray’ as he was affectionately known, passed from this earth on the morning of January 6, 2025, peacefully and surrounded by family after battling with a long-term illness. Stephen lived a storied life, the third of eight boys born and raised in Malden of a single mother, Steve was true 02148 through and through. Gruff and rough around the edges with a dry sense of humor on the outside, Steve truly was a soft-hearted man. His adult life was spent as a dedicated husband and father OBITS | SEE PAGE 21
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